My mother has been the same saying ‘you used to have such beautiful long hair’(I was 12) and wishing I would ‘just grow it a little bit longer dear’ but I don’t really see the problem and never have. My hair is also asymetric (long fringe one side, a bit shaved the other) and sometimes I wonder why people are looking at me and figure it must be the hair.

I actually can’t believe the time I spent talking about my hair, even with friends I’ve known forever- not because I want to- but because people ask (always one of the first things new people mention), are interested and often wish they had the confidence to do the same.

I love my short blond hair because its easy to do, always looks ‘styled’ (even when it isn’t) makes boring outfits look egdy, is super versatile, my favorite accessory and makes me easy to spot in crowed places. Love the short hair! xxx

But it IS just hair. It grows back. I don’t know why people panic so much over it.

Like I know in some(not all!)African communities/societies some people cannot take a woman with hair as short as mine seriously. They think crops like mine are for the young and that it is inappropriate for a married woman.

So I have gotten lots of funny comments, I recall someone telling me a few years ago that he could never consider marrying a woman with short hair.

The unfortunate thing is off course we pass these misinformed stereotypes down to our children and their children.

What I will say is obviously your mother comes from a generation of women who believed that a woman’s pride and feminine self was in the quality and length of her hair. So that is perhaps why she does not like your short hair.

I think society,media and our varying cultures place far more emphasis on hair. It is only hair. I don’t think it has anything what so ever with being feminine etc.

Some of the sexiest women rocked short hair. How many womnen have copied Mia Farrow’s elfin crop circa Rosemary’s Baby? Or Rihanna and her crop? So many women had the sudden urge to chop their hair and make like Rihanna. Sometimes we need the media to show us how hot something is before we make like clones and imitate. My mother battled breast cancer and lost all her hair after chemo. Did she lose her femininity? Not all, my mother was still as girly, womanly and elegance even with no hair.

If perhaps more iconic in the limelight hollywood women rocked short crops as opposed to weaves,wigs,hair pieces it might embolden more women to see short hair as another alternative.

I think hair is just hair. It is society that has put so much importance on it.

At most I think hair should be a reflection of self. You know, just like with our clothes.

So if your hair reflects where you are as a person at the moment, you are doing something right girl.

Being feminine,sexy etc is a state of being,it is an intrinsic inside sort of thing girl.

So rock on honey be it with short hair or long. Your hair does not define you honey bun.

Glam kisses,
xoxo
Marian.